As women, we are told that a true man should pay for everything ESPECIALLY the meal or drinks on a date. Well what if it’s not a date? What if it’s just a first meet, during lunch, in a relaxed atmosphere? Honestly I don’t give a shit when, where or how but I’m starting to feel this rule doesn’t always apply. Born in the Midwest, this is definitely something we are taught and look for in a man. Now don’t get me wrong. When a man pays I greatly appreciate it and I can get an idea of what kind of a bf he may be, but as women become more independent and lady bosses, is it really a big deal if we pay for our own meal? Why is splitting the check so fucking awkward or shunned upon?
Through my experience of online dating, I met up with someone for the first time. There was not pressure for it to become a long term relationship or anything at all. It was very casual. A lunch “date”. Conversation was pretty good and when the check came, we split the bill. A few friends of mine looked at me with their mouths wide open and said “Fuck that guy. Move on to the next!”. Why? What was so wrong that he should be taken out of my “possible bf material” list? Even if I felt this was going to be my husband I said yes to meeting him, well prepared to pay my way. Sure there was a part of me that was surprised but I wasn’t all bummed out.
We live in an age where women keep their money separate, they sometimes make more money then men and we’re becoming more and more independent. I don’t need no man…shoot (insert hair flip here). No but really, do you ladies see this as a deal breaker? We fight for our rights to be treated as equal as men. Why can’t we pay our own way or even pick up the tab every now and then? Is this just the West coast getting to me and pulling me further from my Midwestern values? I don’t know but I see this as no big thang. Hi my name is Jodi. I’m a female. I make my own money and you’re damn straight I’ll pay my own tab thank you very much.